Internet Dating - How to Write an Adult Dating Ad That Attracts Attention

After dating more than 500 different people over the space of four years, I’ve seen my fair share of adult dating ads. On top of that, I’ve had, literally, thousands of responses from the profiles I’ve posted on various online dating sites.

All of this first-hand research has made me a bit of an expert in the subject of creating an adult dating ad that catches the eye of potential suitors. I know what has worked for me, and what has worked for others in the dating personals to get my attention. Also, I’ve spoken with countless friends, dates and chatters on this subject, to get their opinion on the matter as well.

Four themes emerged from the discussions; four simple things that every person who is trying online dating can do to ensure more responses. And with more responses, comes more dates.

1) Post an Eye-Catching Picture
The most effective way to get responses from your adult dating ad is to post a picture. Not just any picture will do, either. It has to be a clear, crisp shot of you doing something a tad out of the ordinary, or looking somehow different from the rest of the crowd. Let’s be honest here! You’ve got a lot of competition online, and only a couple of seconds to attract someone’s attention. The more unusual and outrageous your picture is, the better.

Over the years I’ve spoken many times with friends about my dates, or adult dating ads that have caught my attention. Many times I don’t even use people’s names anymore, because I could meet five “Johns” in a month, and trying to explain who is who confuses everyone. Instead, I create handles (nicknames) like “Alligator Wrestler,” and “Urban Spelunker.” These names have usually come from their online dating profile pictures. I’m sure you can just imagine what kinds of pictures were used to earn these titles!

The point is that you want something memorable as your first introduction. Since I don’t have any ‘memorable’ pictures of me to use, I chose a picture of me that resembles a celebrity as my main profile shot. Many people do a double take, and then feel compelled to contact me and say, “Hey, you look a lot like Kristie Alley!” Things usually progress from there.

2) Create a Powerful Opening Line
Before you can determine what is powerful, though, you should take a peek and see what your adult dating ad counterparts are using. Just maybe your favorite line from ‘that’ song is being used in every other adult dating ad right now. Or maybe you see a theme that you want to avoid completely. Checking out the competition never hurts, but in this case, it’s crucial. Once you’ve done your research, you can start creating an opening line. Again, being unusual here is a plus. The more obscure, the better! You want potential online dating suitors to read what you say, and think, “What? I have to learn more!” and then contact you to ask for more details. Coy, provocative, flirty, and outrageous all work here – use them freely.

One of the best responses I ever received from an adult dating ad to an opening line was a reference to an article I read about a “Masturbate-a-thon” fundraiser for cancer research. Of course, not everyone will want to use something so blatantly suggestive in their profile. But it worked for me!