When you get in the groove of Internet dating, you can have some great fun exploring creative, interesting, and fun ways to catch the attention of your prospective date using email. On the Internet, content is king! You don't have the advantages of your physical appearance, vocal tone or inflection, that nice new car, and so forth. So your emails must shine – and get you noticed. This baker's dozen of email starters might just help you stand out from the rest of the crowd – and end up with that special date! Or maybe they'll spark an idea that's even better!
Getting noticed and making a good "love connection" takes patience and skill. Don’t be disappointed if your first attempt doesn't get the best of results. Try again, and be patient.
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Email 1: Write to them about something you have in common with one of the hobbies or interests they had in their profile. "I noticed that you're into collecting hand carved busts of Lithuanian sports legends, me too…"
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Email 2: Ask something specific about their profile: "Your profile leaves me with the impression that you're a rather quiet person. Are you shy, or just reserved?"
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Email 3: Ask about their experiences in dating: good and bad. "What have you liked best about your past first dates with people you've met on the Internet? What have you liked least?"
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Email 4: Mention something unique about them. "Wow, you like hang gliding. That sounds dangerous - is it fun?"
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Email 5: Comment/Ask about where they're from in a humorous way "So, you were born in Kansas. Is it really as boring as everyone says it is?" "So, you're from Canada, eh?" (Sometimes trite works.) Anyway, use one that's appropriate to the state they're from.
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Email 6: Ask them about their personal values. This is personal, so tell them something of your values in the email. Read between the lines, when you get a response. Also, look at how they write – lots to learn! "You sound like you're committed to having a family, too. I think it's very important to raise children with options regarding religion. What do you think family life should be all about."
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Email 7: Ask if they love (or hate) sports as much as you do. "I haven't watched a sports game in years, how about you?"
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Email 8: Try to avoid negative or controversial topics like war, terrorism, how bad the economy is, or disasters. You're trying to develop a positive romantic relationship with someone. Stay positive, and reveal yourself while learning about the other person. "I see you like to read. I don't read that much anymore since school – except for magazines. I did used to like to read spy novels. What sorts of books do you like?"
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Email 9: A good starter can almost always be "What's your idea of a really great vacation? I'm always torn between a wild time Las Vegas or Reno, and a week of peace and quiet in the mountains."
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Email 10+: Quick Icebreakers… If you could retire today, where would you live? Do you like older films, say from the 30's and 40's? Have you ever been to Sea World? Are you a Star Trek fan? Which Star Wars was your favorite? Did you watch Seinfeld when it was on?
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Email 11: Thank heavens for celebrities… Which movie stars do you like. Which singer do you like? Who sings you favorite song? Which celebrity would you consider a good role model for kids today? This one can definitely become interesting!
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Email 12: What is your fantasy for the ideal first date? This one can really help you get a handle on some useful information. For example, you'll find out what they like to eat, and if they prefer the busy, crowded places, or a more quiet, intimate setting.
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Email 13: Not for the faint of heart… [Remember that turnabout is fair play.] So, what was the most embarrassing thing that has ever happened to you? (By now, that experience has ripened to funny.) If you could possess one superhuman power, like x-ray vision, or being able to fly, what would that power be? What's the very first experience that you can remember in your life? Were you popular in high school? Again, don't be surprised if you have to answer these in return – or even first!
Try to be a different, unique – but not strange or weird (unless you are, of course). Try to get your prospective date's attention in a positive, very unthreatening way. By keeping the communications lighthearted and fun, you'll be the type of person he or she enjoys interacting with. This will get you more first responses, and end up getting you more phone calls and face-to-face dates.
So there it is. Now get on line and find somebody. And remember, there are a lot of other people looking, and the Internet will allow you to find them, and give you a chance to meet them. Remarkable! But only if you use it. Good luck!
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