Avoiding arguments can save your marriage...
Arguments have no place in the modern, well-planned marriage. Marriage is a partnership, marriage is working together. Arguments occur only when there is resistance or lack of cooperation on the part of the wife. Once your wife realizes how admirably suited you are to lead you will have little friction and a genuinely happy home.
However, in spite of all you can do there will be times when a poorly trained wife will raise her voice and an argument will have begun. You have little to fear, however, if you memorize the following rules.
DON'T BE LOGICAL
Arguing with a woman is like trying to shoot pool with a hockey stick. You have a feeling you are playing two different games at the same time. Being naturally clear-headed and logical, you may try to rely upon reason. This is a mistake. A woman uses only naked emotions, weapons she can handle far better than you.
Allow Tempers to Cool
A woman's tantrum is like a summer storm, violent but often of short duration. Once tears begin to flow, be sympathetic but preoccupied. Improvise some simple but urgent duty such as:
(Sob, sob.)
"You don't love me, David."
"Be right with you, Phoeb, soon as I check the safety valve in the basement."
"You don't love me!"
"I do, pet. Don't want you blown sky high, though. Back in a jiffy."
(Stay away for thirty or forty minutes, then return with a bright smile.)
"Oh, hello, pet. Perfect hell down there. Blazing and hissing. Now, where were we?"
Chances are, her momentum will be gone.
Arouse Pity
This requires expert playing, but if done correctly can melt the coldest heart.
"Gosh, Mom, when you come runnin' at your little Davie like that, well, I just wanta hide my head in your apron and have a good cry."
Once you arouse her sympathy your battle is half won.
Be Strong, Be Silent
Over the long haul, however, there are few techniques that equal simple silence.
It takes character to remain wordless, but you will have character to spare. Several days of silence will wear down the most determined outburst. You may be tempted to add the enigmatic smile or the tuneless hum. Do not do so. Utter silence and the mask-like expression are less satisfying, but will do the best job.
WELL WORTH THE EFFORT
Remember, kindness and consideration for your wife do pay off. The selfish husband who goes his own way without regard for his wife's feelings will soon find himself with a broken home.
Be good to your wife and she will be good to you.
